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Jul 29Liked by Arle Bielanko

Reading your posts each week is a weekly lesson in survival and healing and hope. Your faith in Arle and in yourself and the world you two have created is a beautiful thing. A gift to each other and to those of us who read your posts. Happy Anniversary to you both & many happy returns of the day.

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Thanks a lot, Taryn. Hope you're having a nice summer. :)

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Jul 29·edited Jul 30Liked by Arle Bielanko

It’s very clear that you and your bride have brought each other the comfort and healing ‘balm’ of a True North perspective. Rare and beautiful. Northern Lights for each other too. Happy 5 Year milestone !! All the best blessed years ahead.

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Thank you very much, Gina!

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Jul 26Liked by Arle Bielanko

This entire post resonated and hit hard enough for me to comment and forward it to the person who'd been gaslighting me and emotionally abusing me for years. I'm fortunate that he finally recognized it and has been doing a lot of work to change it in the past few years, but so much damage has been done (and I'm still in contact with family who primed me for this). This was particularly poignant:

We do what we want.

We wait for him to break in half.

Then we point our fingers at the one displaying obvious emotional agony.

Then we say we are scared of him.

Then we feel like winners.

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Thanks so much for the solidarity, Nikki. I hope you're doing alright.

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Jul 26Liked by Arle Bielanko

I love reading your journey toward self-knowledge. Not that we ever get there fully. And some folks have no self awareness at all, which explains a lot in this word (eg your 35mph trailer guy). Just keep being true to yourself. And happy anniversary too you and Arle.

“The path you walk is thorny, through no fault of your own” - Maria Ouspenskaya, “The Wolfman”.

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Thanks a lot, Tom. We appreciate the kind words!

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